With all the hype surrounding the Girl Boss movement through books like Sophia Amaruso’s #GIRLBOSS, and endless motivational websites and social media accounts based around harnessing your girl-bossing skills, more young women are being moved to follow their dreams and become the boss of their lives. Whether your goal is to become CEO, to kick arse at university or you basically just need some motivation to get out of your PJs in the morning, we’ve compiled a list of tips to help you become the [Hashtag] Girl Boss of your life.
1. Play to your strengths
Author of #GIRLBOSS and owner of online shopping destination, NastyGal, Sophia Amaruso attributes her success to knowing her weaknesses and strengths. Initially selling vintage wares on eBay, Amaruso didn’t intend on running a multi-million dollar company, but built up a business by playing to the strengths of herself and her employees. Recently she has stepped aside as CEO and is focusing on being the face of the company, as she felt someone else would have been more suited to the role. The best bosses are the ones who know their employees better than they know themselves and can place them in the right role at work. Similarly, you should really be asking yourself what your strengths and weaknesses are before delving into anything.
2. Do the Dirty Work
In #GIRLBOSS there is a whole section called, “Shitty Jobs Saved My life,” and the title really speaks for itself. She writes, “A lot of people in my generation don’t seem to get that you have to work your way up. I don’t care if filing invoices is beneath you. If you don’t do it, who do you think is going to? Your boss? Nope. That’s why she hired you.” Apart from having a go at this generation, Amaruso makes a very valid point: good work ethic is often overlooked. Getting in and getting your hands dirty is sure to be noticed by those who matter.
3. Do What You Love
This is one of the oldest pieces of advice in the book, but it really rings true in anything you do in life. “It’s pretty impossible to succeed while doing something you genuinely hate,” writes Sophia. Although it may be daunting/impossible to decide what you want to do in life, it’s easy to work out what things bring you happiness. If you love playing sport, do it. If you love drawing, do it. The most fortunate people are the ones who work out how to do what they love and get paid for it as well.
4. Embrace the haters
Girls with goals can often be seen as over-ambitious and unrealistic in their expectations. There will always be people trying to bring you down or tell you your dreams are too big. Take it in your stride and use their negativity as inspiration to go even harder than before.
5. Ask for what you want
“If you’re frustrated because you’re not getting what you want, stop for a second: Have you actually flat-out asked for it? If you haven’t, stop complaining. You can’t expect the world to read your mind. You have to put it out there, and sometimes putting it out there is as simple as just saying, ‘Hey, can I have that?’” This is the sort of advice that’s easy to say but harder to put into practice. Confidence is key in asking for what you want, so put your ego aside and just ask!
6. Be in control of your health and mind
Yoga, exercise, meditation, healthy eating, and focusing on general wellbeing will not only assist you in becoming a Girl Boss, but will help you feel on top of your game in all aspects of life. Melissa Ambrosini is an “entrepreneur, author, motivational speaker, self love teacher and Mean Girl ass kicker,” who focuses on health, wealth and love to help women learn to love themselves and harness the best version of themselves. She believes that all women have the ability to love themselves and get rid of their inner ‘mean girl’ in order to live the life of their dreams. There are many motivational websites like this that guide women along the best path to success. Also, self-help has never looked so damn good!
7. Social Media and the Internet is your friend
Websites and social media accounts that focus on girl-bossing are popping up everywhere. Bossbabe is a site that equips young women with the tools, and ‘Netwerks’ to be the boss of their own business. Following the right social media accounts and blogs is great for inspiration and allows you to discover mentors or create contacts. Likewise, consider a LinkedIn account or an online portfolio to engage with a broader community.
Sophia Amaruso along with the wider Girl Boss community is empowering women to follow dreams they’d only ever imagined. Although it’s not the height of feminism and there are still pay gaps between men and women in the workforce, ladies who are sharing their knowledge are putting young women on the right path towards achieving their dreams. Seven tips won’t get you where you want to be overnight, but following them and embracing all the knowledge that is readily available online and in books like #GIRLBOSS can only help in girl’s quest to “Run the World.”